As stated by the writer of the article linked above, this is not about Trump or his supposed “locker room talk.”
For me, this is about what we are teaching our children. I have given up hope that we can teach a certain percentage of the adult male population that “rape culture” is a real, provable thing.
We teach our children that males can get away with behavior that females are not permitted. That even though certain behaviors are clearly negative and thereby considered “wrong” in our society, males will be excused for that “wrong” behavior.
I do understand the reasoning the authority figures give for excusing such behaviors. They don’t want to “destroy a young man’s life” for a “simple mistake.” They want to give him a “chance” because it was “just bad decision-making.”
The problem with that is that we are ignoring the victim of this young man’s behaviors. We are telling the victim(s) that they are not excused for their “simple mistake” of being in the wrong place at the wrong time. We vilify them for their own “bad decision-making.” And it doesn’t matter if that victim is male or female.
We teach our children many of the following:
Such information teaches our children (girls as well as boys) that these behaviors are acceptable for boys.
The problem is that our schools are frankly ignoring a law that has been in force since 1972. Title IX Of The Education Amendments Of 1972 requires ANY school that receives federal funding (which includes some private, religious schools as well as public schools).
The reality is that 44% of all sexual assaults happen to someone who is under the age of 18. How many of the girls in YOUR high school are victims? Can you say exactly the same as the writer of the above article? Let me remind you of what she says:
Now, I will admit, I went to a private high school. There were a total of 56 people in my graduating class. If you assume that half of those were girls, that would still mean that in my graduating class there would have been 14 girls who had been sexually assaulted (including myself, because my first sexual assault happened when I was 13). In a public high school with a graduating class of 1,000 kids (the national average), that would mean if roughly half of the class is female, there would STILL be 250 girls who had been sexually assaulted.
Those statistics are pretty damned scary. Think about it. Most sexual assaults go unreported. If there is even a single reported sexual assault of that 250, the school should be working very hard to make sure it doesn’t happen to ANYONE. But we still turn out graduating classes with victims of sexual assault.
We’re still sending boys to college thinking they can get away with anything.
And I’m damned sure that any authority figure who found out one of those boys were assaulting their fellow studients felt that they were simply dealing with an isolated incident in that boy’s life. That choosing to not enter the information that that boy had assaulted someone was helping a boy to learn their lesson without damaging “his future.”
This is, sadly, the same reason that many serial killers or serial rapists can get away with their activities for decades.You don’t like that comparison? You shouldn’t! But that doesn’t make it less true.