After having gotten to a point of equilibrium with regards to my memories and experiences of life with my ex-husband (both good and bad, because no matter HOW unhealthy a relationship can be, there can be small gems of happiness) I no longer think of him on a daily basis, nor castigate myself for staying with him for so long.
I was recently given information that he too has been blogging, and in fact has also started a video journal, as well as written (and self-published) 3 books.
In the interests of fairness (something of major importance to me, I’m not going to hide or ignore the fact that in EVERY situation there are three so-called “truths.” Those “truths” are:
- My perspective
- The other person’s perspective, and
- Actual reality
And, because I acknowledge that my perspective is not the only one, I’m going to give you some links, so that you can judge for yourself who my ex-husband is.
He is a strong advocate for destigmatizing PTSD. And, it is a valuable service. Far too many people in this world have some form of it, and not all of them are armed forces or veterans. Sadly, I developed my own experience from living with his. But, admittedly mine is somewhere between mild and moderate, where his is severe.
I have not purchased any of his books, don’t watch his channel and I only skimmed through his blog when I first heard about it. I see no reason to further punish myself by giving any attention to his opinions, particularly those about me.
This is about continuing the transparency I have promised myself to have. I don’t fear his opinion of me, nor that someone thinks he’s the greatest thing since sliced bread, and I’m an evil bitch.
I know who I am right now, and I have a direction to work in to become the person I want to be. And that, my friends, is all we really should focus on.