Ladies, yes, this is yet another post about how equality MUST be equal, and justice MUST be equal. And I’m saying this as a woman who was stalked by a 19 year old, when I was just 13.
I know far too many men who have been labeled with the title of “sexual predator” because they made a stupid mistake. And the reason I’m stating it that way is because that was EXACTLY what it was. Lumping stupidity in with intent to molest and rape is just as disgusting to me as a woman being accused of “asking for it” when she reports she’s been raped (whether because of being drunk, or dressed provocatively doesn’t matter).
And women need to take accountability for their actions if they choose to do something stupid that means someone else gets into trouble.
Teens who purchase fake IDs to get into places that are limited to only adults need to be just as culpable for their actions as our justice system claims that the adults are culpable. If some 15 or 16 year old gets into a bar, and drinks, our current justice system closes down the bar, but rarely takes the teen to task for it. If that same teen decides to have sex with someone there, they also get the “get out of jail free” card, while the person they had sex with (of ANY gender) gets labeled by the justice system as a sexual predator.
And it doesn’t even HAVE to be proven that the adult and the teen had sex – it just has to have what is considered a “credible witness.”
Don’t tell me that there aren’t women out there who will intentionally make men out to be sexual predators (for their own purposes). I’ve known women who use their children to “prove” that men have raped the kids, and who make their money off of suing the supposed molester. I’ve known women who were rejected by men, so they did everything they could to get him labeled a sexual predator – either by reputation or by the justice system. I’ve known women who destroyed men’s lives simply because that man wasn’t what she wanted him to be.
Rape culture does NOT have only one side, people.
And before you start off with percentages, let me point out to you some reality. Our justice system is based on the idea that a person is innocent until PROVEN guilty. The problem being that that innocence or guilt must be backed up by honesty. And there are JUST as many women who are willing to lie as there are men who are willing to lie.
Owning a penis does not automatically mean you are a rapist or predator. Owning a vagina does not automatically mean you are innocent.
And until justice is equal – until it means we ALL get the same justice – it will never be anything BUT a rape culture.