Most people say that emotion is not logical, that love is not logical. Well, they’re right – emotions aren’t logical.
HOWEVER, adult human relationships are.
I know, I know, there are probably a few people out there who are getting whiplash from that statement.
We try to deny it. We try to excuse poor relationship choices by saying that it’s all about the emotions. But, the reality is, we’re not just creatures of instinct and emotion. We’re also – supposedly – rational beings.
So, here we have women who have poor self-esteem, are insecure, and are emotionally immature – so they start fights with their significant others about issues that are either non-issues, or are situations where their perspective is so wrapped up with their negative view of themselves that the women cannot actually see that they are baseless in their accusations. Or we have men, also who have poor self-esteem, are insecure and who are emotionally immature – so they accuse their significant others about the same things the women are doing – for the same reasons.
Or, we have chosen family group, one who has developed a leadership because some major decisions are required. The person (or persons) with the most skill at making those decisions, and at delegating the situations they may not have the experience to complete becomes – in a rational relationship – the person(s) who make the final decisions.
Pure consensus decision-making is ONLY useful if all members of the group are a) emotionally mature; and b) more interested in the welfare of the entire group rather than only their own singular welfare.