As I recover from the situation with my ex, I become more accepting of seeing myself as a feminist. It was very easy to allow myself to view the world through his eyes, and define things through his filters rather than my own. Defining myself as a woman of strength, independence and power was fairly deeply set in my self-image – so I had blinded myself to the fact that I had allowed him to define me.
I will admit, my own view of the world that considered other women more of a threat to me than men, fit right in with many of his misogynistic notions.
It’s not that I can’t see the dangers of being a woman in our society, it’s that I have received more judgement, more bullying, more humiliation at the hands of women than I have at the hands of men. The humiliation at the hands of men came in only one aspect of my life – my romantic interactions with them. And that comes down more to rejection issues than to any form of active humiliation (except for my ex, of course).
If we, as feminists, truly want to be judged as people, rather than as a life support system for tits and a vagina, then it is important that we stand up against the hypocrisy and bullying that our fellow women do as well!