I keep coming across these stereotypes, not just on Facebook, but pretty much everywhere in the United States, that the “more attractive” a woman is, the less likely she is to be a feminist.
I have a quick answer for you, and a much longer one.
The quick answer? Go Google Emma Watson. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Are you going to tell me that she isn’t what is considered “conventionally attractive?” And she is happily and strongly feminist.
Now for the longer answer.
The assumption is that a feminist “hates men.” And if you are a heterosexual woman, and you “hate men” then obviously, you must not be attractive to men.
Anyone besides me see the circular logic involved?
That so-called logic requires that the only “worth” involved for a heterosexual woman is how attractive or unattractive she is to the opposite sex.
It’s exactly the same attitude that results in saying that fat people have no “value” in our society.
In fairy tales, this is the “Beauty and the Beast” all over again. A modern version of it shows up as “Beastly” (2011). But, there are issues with that story as well. First off, it’s the assumption that only a beautiful girl’s love can “save” the Beast. Secondly, that an “ugly” person can only get the attention of an attractive person by force.
Frankly, in the assorted renditions of the Beauty and the Beast story, I think the original TV show showed it best. While Catherine is still considered a beauty, Vincent is so much more than just a “beast.” And he’s not a beast because he was “cursed” to be that way, he was a supposed natural mutation.
Shallow attraction is just that, shallow. Any change in the “perfection” of that attractiveness destroys the supposed relationship. That change could be pregnancy, could be an accident, could be simply getting older. Any relationship that can be destroyed by life’s myriad changes isn’t worth the energy spent to keep it going.
One of the other reasons I love the 1987 TV series is that it shows that Vincent is intelligent, clever, witty, and has a stringent code of honor. He believes in compassion, not because it brings him acceptance, but because it is the RIGHT thing to do. He is just as ready to defend the needy as he is to help them.
He doesn’t save Catherine because she’s beautiful. He saves her because she is in need – she’s been beaten, mutilated and left for dead. And he doesn’t force her to stay in some kidnapped bower, he helps her to leave when she’s ready – again because it’s the RIGHT thing to do.
Yes, it’s a danger to his society. The people that live “under the city” are secret, because they’ve been “thrown away” by our modern society. They’ve banded together for their own safety and well-being. And for her to leave means that their secret could be revealed.
But, he trusts her. He believes that she understands the needs of this underground society.
Getting back to feminism. I believe in equal rights, and equal understanding for ALL people. I don’t hate men, and I’m even attractive to a significant portion of them. I don’t believe that men should be punished for how women have been treated for centuries. I believe that our current society destroys men just as much as it destroys women.
But, until BOTH sexes can get past their love-affair with being “perfectly beautiful” we’re just not going to get there. Because there are simply too many people who are so self-absorbed that they can’t see the writing on the wall.