Your Sin Hurts Me

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  • Matthew 6:15

    “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

  • Matthew 7:1-6:

    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

    “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

    “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

  • Matthew 25:31-46

    “When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.

    “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

    “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you?  When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

    “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

    “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’

    “They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’

    “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’

    “Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.”

The Christian God calls  upon His followers to love their fellow man, to help those in need, to have compassion.

And writers such as the man above, seems to have missed the point of Jesus’ teachings. I’m not even going to counter his words and thoughts toward those believes are “unbeliever liberals,” because he claims to discount their thoughts.  More telling though, is is his attitude to his supposed “fellow Christians” who he feels have missed the boat on “gay marriage.”

But even there, his arguments hold no water.

A small part of this is his ignorance of history, including the history he believes is written in the Bible. To him, marriage is a monolithic institution of one man/one woman that has stood throughout the life of the Earth.  Yet even in his own Bible, there are assorted different “holy men” who had more than one wife.  Jacob (who was renamed Israel, and sired 12 sons), had Rachel and her sister Leah, as well as both of their handmaidens.  Abraham had only the one wife, but had a child with her slave Hagar. Solomon had 700 wives, and 300 concubines, and his main sin was turning away from God to his wives’ gods.

Even outside of the Bible, there are a huge number of countries that even now practice multiple different types of marriage.  So, no, marriage as a one man/one woman institution has not been the “only path for marriage.”

One of his other arguments is that marriage is to sanctify procreation.  But, he still supports the marriages of those who are infertile, as long as the couple are man/woman.

Another argument is that not only will those of us who are non-monogamous want our relationships approved by the government, so will those who commit bestiality, who molest children, or who commit incest. He is openly contemptuous about the idea that those of us who are sex positive insist on adult, responsible consent.

I wonder if he knows that most of those individuals who commit many of those crimes justify their actions as being the “head of the household” whose words are considered law?  Supposedly Christian men who take the “rights” of the head of the household, and forget the responsibilities that come along with them requiring him to do everything for the good of his family.

But the main thrust of his argument is that America is (and has in the past) been the kingdom of God on Earth.  Sadly, even when one is a firm believer in Christianity, there is no where that America can be said to be the living kingdom of God.

While I fully understand that Christians, by order of their God, must point out what is sin and what is not, they have been also ordered by that same God to be IN the world, but not OF the world.  All of these uber-conservative, religious fanatics are instead trying to be OF the world.  They want political power to impose their view of the world on the world.  They are doing exactly what they claim unbelievers are doing.

Look, I don’t want to be in charge of YOUR moral choices.  I have enough of my own moral choices to deal with.  And I would fight JUST as hard against anyone who attempted to claim that a minister MUST condone and officiate at a situation that is counter to his own conscience.  As a minister myself, I stand firm in my own conscience, and will not officiate at a funeral for a devout Christian (as I am not Christian) nor will I officiate at a wedding where the people getting married are doing something that offends my conscience.  As I stated before on this blog, the SAME defense that allowed for SCOTUS to make this opinion would support ANY minister who refused to officiate at a gay wedding.

I know ministers who refuse to officiate at a wedding involving one or the other (or both) previously divorced.  It is counter to their conscience.  And I support their right to refuse to do so.

I even support the right of businesses to choose who they are willing to serve with their products.  Why?  Because I believe that if their business fails because of their own choices, it is simply the consequences of that choice. It’s no different than someone only choosing to have their business open 4 hours a week.  Limiting their audience is it’s own punishment.

LOVE is what makes a marriage sacred.  Not children.  Not religion. Not gender.

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